Child we know you feel deep sorrow, but that is because you feel deeply, love unconditionally and you give open heartedly.
But today we want to talk to you about what it means to truly love unconditionally, and what it doesn’t mean. What unconditional love truly is. There’s no need to be anxious child for remember we are with you to show you, grow you and expand your consciousness so your soul’s voice leads your human and not the other way around.
When you love you love at your expense. You place priority on the others and forget yourself in the mix. You are fully open to all they offer you, all they say, do and behave. You take it all on and you make it yours. You become the helper, the problem solver, the carrier and the mediator. You make it so personal and observed absorb all their energy, all their human needs and all their problems. You neglect yourself in the process, and until recently you do this completely. You have only began adding yourself as a consideration over the last few years. You are yet to make yourself the priority.
To love unconditionally is to love openly, fully and with pure intention. To allow the energy of love to come from the heart in the purity of love, the most pure energy there is. It is to restrict the love you feel, and to allow it to flow within you without restriction, conditions or the human heads interference.
The energy of love is the pure white energy people often attributed to being the energy of Spirit. It is in fact the energy of unconditional love. Spirit of course is that same unconditional love, but the white energy seen is how unconditional love feels. It is pure, it feels ease, grace and peaceful within the human form. When humans die those who come back describe the white light and the peace they feel. That is energy of unconditional love.
Unconditional love as an energy does not need to be controlled or contained by the human, it needs only to be felt and allowed within the human form.
However, the human does have human responsibilities to their soul, and also their interactions with other humans. For this is the purpose of the human experience, to remember the soul, the self, the being beyond the current human form. And so we must speak with you also of the impact of unconditional love and the human form. While we talk of you, the messages we bring you are of relevance to all, like all our messages to you.
As you know equilibrium exists in all things and that is the law of all matter on your planet. There is an opposite equal to everything. Harmony occurs when the opposites are aligned. Misalignment of energy occurs when only one part of the equation is prominent.
You love unconditionally and yet you carry as a soul the wounds of rejection and abandonment. Can you see how these are the equal opposites? Can you see how you possess the very medicine to heal the wounds your soul is here to experience in human form? Can you see how you arrived with the very medicine within you to create equilibrium with the wounds you carry? Can you see you contain all you need to alchemise the wounding and balance your human and soul? Can you see that you have the wisdom within you and the level of consciousness now to live your human experience in alignment with your soul?
Consciousness is the knowing of your soul self and contributing that wisdom into the collective field of humanity on the planet you reside on in this lifetime.
How do you know your soul as a human? Through the life experiences you have. Each soul has its own karmic path. Some will have more challenging experiences than others because of the stage and age of their soul. Some will never awaken to the awareness they are more than just human. Some will clear their karmic debt in this lifetime. Others will come close, and others will not at all in this lifetime.
You are a soul who knows this truth we speak – that you are more than merely human. Your woundings have led you to this knowledge and rather than opting out of being human, you opted in to the exploration of your soul and this is why we have this connection. Dear child you said yes, and you continue to say yes, and so the next stage of your conscious awareness and expansion begins.
This current human experience we know hurts your human deeply but look what else it has shown you
- You are aware this is part of your soul journey.
- You feel your body and listen less to the head.
- You know what you need physically, mentally and at a soul level to support yourself on this challenging journey.
- You are aware, and will continue to become aware, of where you made mistakes and ignored your soul’s voice.
- You can see with clarity where others have also ignored their souls voice, where their wounds are impacting their soul journey, and how you’ve allowed that to impact yours. You also know it is not yours to resolve.
- You are listening to us, your body and your soul’s voice, allowing yourself to fully feel and receive. Surrendering to the process, the journey and where it takes you.
- You have self awareness and are not blaming, projecting or being untruthful in how you communicate about this situation.
You are a long way from the person you once were and in time you’ll be further from the person you currently are. But your lesson now is an unconditional love.
Until recently you have spent your life loving unconditionally without any boundaries and self responsibility, and without your soul being even a consideration. This has created an imbalance with the wounds you carry.
- You have sought love, drawn love to you, and because of your lack of boundaries and personal responsibility you have magnified the energy of your wounds.
- You were rejected and abandoned at birth.
- Your adoptive mother rejected you as a child.
- Your adoptive father rejected you as an adult.
- Your grandparents abandoned you when they died.
- Your first love abandoned you for another woman.
- Your second love did the same at times until you abandoned him.
- Your third love you married and then he rejected you until you abandoned him.
- Your next partner abandoned and rejected you.
- Your second husband has just abandoned you and rejected the world you created together.
- Your brother rejected you all your life until you abandoned him.
And through all of this you loved unconditionally each one of these humans – but you did so without boundaries, personal responsibility, self love and self respect. You forgot to love yourself unconditionally along the way.
You have learned along the way elements of what we speak, but you have not yet learned enough to alchemise the wounds and the truth of unconditional love.
Soul wisdom comes from within, from the conscious awareness from walking your soul path. From focusing on your path and from giving yourself unconditional love. It comes from honest self reflection and commitment to the journey.
Your pattern is to continually give unconditional love having a duty of care to yourself.
Duty of care as you know from your experiences with others, is using discernment in all situations- by listening to your physical body and how it feels. By acknowledging and pausing to consider the signs, feelings and your soul’s voice when it brings discomfort, unease, physical illness or disease, when strong emotions that are not-self emotions arise, or when your behaviour is uncontrollable and out of character.
Discernment is listening to all those signs and pausing to understand what they’re showing you about where you are misaligned energetically and not connected to your soul and its wisdom. Like those who work with others, like those interact with others, you have a duty of care to yourself. That is personal responsibility.
It is true you cannot control how others react to you. It is true you are not responsible for the behaviours of others. But you have a duty of care to yourself to take personal responsibility for how you show up in the world. You must have self awareness in how you show up and you must listen to your soul’s voice and take personal responsibility for how you behave as a human and a soul. That is duty of care. That is integrity.
Your unconditional love approach has lacked boundaries. You give of yourself openly and constantly. You do not use discernment in your interactions with others. You have been attempting to set boundaries, to be more discerning and to contain where, when, how and with whom you give your energy. But when it has been challenged, criticised, rejected or you’ve been abandoned – you withdraw, shut down, and go into solitude.
You do this to recharge your energy field, to connect within and with us intentionally, but the large part of your focus is in what you need to change in order to keep the peace with others, to maintain the relationship, and only a small amount is on the lesson for your growth and conscious awareness.
You are much better, but YOU are not your priority. This situation is where you will make that change. It will not be quick, nor easy, nor without mistakes, but your knowing as soon as you and XXX united that he was your last love, your Takara, is because it it is time to now love yourself unconditionally, not because you will never love another as a partner. It is about YOU being your priority, and your duty of care to yourself.
XXX could not cope with how you loved him so deeply and unconditionally. He told you that. He told his men circles that. He told you constantly he sacrificed a lot to be in relationship with you. He told you he could not be around the conflict and challenges and he needed to protect his energy field. He told you he needed to put himself first and he needed to be happy within himself. He told you he felt caged, and he finally told you he couldn’t live in a domesticated environment.
XXX avoids conflict and challenges. He prefers to live from a place of love and he offers that love freely. What he lacks, like you do, is personal responsibility for how the lack of duty of care and discernment of how your behaviours impact others if you fail to have awareness of your impact. You both do it but in different ways, which is why you are each mirrors to the other.
Your lesson here is to journey into what unconditional love means for you. It is not about closing your heart down to everyone and everything. The core of your very being, the essence of your soul is unconditional love. XXX even reflected that to you again the morning he left. It is who you are and how you love, but you have been irresponsible in the openness and freedom with which you offer it, which allows it to be misused, taken freely from you and disrespected. It is your lack of boundaries, self-respect and personal responsibility the results in your wounds continuing to fester, break open, weep and not heal.
It is now time for you to establish boundaries. To prioritise yourself. To enhance your awareness of how others interact with your unconditional love. To have a duty of care for yourself and be responsible with your unconditional love. And all of this begins with YOU.
You are the first priority. Your mind, body and soul and its well being. It won’t diminish your unconditional love, it will enhance it because of the love, value and respect you have for yourself.
We love you child. We will continue to expand on what we’ve discussed today.
In grace we are one.
