Child do not be afraid to connect to us, that is why we’re here. In good and in challenging. We will share with you the truth, not what you want to hear, and so you hesitate, but child we’re also of pure consciousness so we do not harm and only give you what you need, not wilful harm or toxic energy. There is enough in your earth realm without it being in ours.
These challenges you face are yours to face, of that we speak truth you know. Did you expect it to be that, no you’re human did not, but yet your soul saw the patterns, the lessons, the truth, the journey together. You’re human just wanted forever, but nothing is forever.
See the pattern within yourself of wanting to help others and doing so before you help yourself. In the plane you put the mask on before helping others. You always put yourself behind others child, and when in love you continue to. You value the love, the being loved, and you give it unconditionally but where child is the love for self? The love and valuing of self to put yourself above all else. You can help others. You do help others. But you too often do it at your expense.
You again wander off looking at others to their skills, their expertise. Do you not see yourself? When are you going to see how powerful you are? Others see you, but you only see others so much of the time.
The patterns you have seen for some time child. You saw the cracks, yours and his, for this is your soul’s gift, and you were committed to healing the cracks of yours and together healing that which impacted your relationship. But if only one in a relationship does the deep inner work then it is only going to create greater divide and opposition. You’ve seen this and you’ve ignored this.
The clarity and memories you are receiving now while you have space to breathe, are not to cause hate or anger. They are to show you what you missed and ignored, for they are the areas of growth you have, and also the reasons why you sit alone today.
It is rejection and abandonment child, for that is the path you walk in your human lifetime. But child who is it that rejects and abandons you most?
You do. You reject and abandon yourself and place greater importance on others.
The memory of XXX sharing in circles he didn’t know how to cope with being loved so deeply, his parting words & words he often shared that you are “the most beautiful, unconditionally loving person he knows”, shows you the power of your soul and how it embraces the purity of love.
But you neglect to offer it to yourself. You’ve seen a glimpse of it, the healer has helped you to see the patterns of self-abandonment and self-rejection all your life. She has helped you see how you allow others to push yourself aside in taking care of yourself.
Your withdrawal and your emotional barrier you put up is not because you are unhealed. It is because your soul is giving you space to realise the abandonment you do to yourself. But you spend the time focusing on finding solutions to keep others happy, to keep the relationships, the friendship, the situation. You have missed that you matter and that you have self-rejection and abandonment issues.
The people in your life are mirrors, for everyone. Parallel processing. Whatever words you need to understand that soul’s communicate at a human level in a way to get each soul to recognise something within themselves that requires their loving attention.
And you dear child are only now realising that the rejection and abandonment of you by others is because you do it to yourself and allow too much.
Boundaries have been your challenge of this past year. The more you’ve set, the more grief and loss you’ve experienced. The friendships you’ve let go of because they no longer align. No malice, no big drama, not hurtful behaviours, just changed directions. They have hurt you despite your knowing your paths are different to when they began. You’ve had the wisdom but still had the grief and loss. Because dear child you love unconditionally and you tie your value and self worth to the relationships with others. What about the relationship with self? What about you? Why must you continue to abandon self?
Boundaries are what you need in order for you to see yourself fully, and for all the love and gifts within you to be freely flowing.
Boundaries ensure you only flow with what is best for you and for your purpose in this human lifetime. You do not need to be like anyone else, or bend like anyone else. You are not here to be the same as anyone else, you are here to show others there is a different way. You are here to show people who they are beyond the expectations of any external influences.
You must embrace yourself and your uniqueness. You must listen deeply to your soul’s voice and remain in flow and open to the wisdom it offers. You must listen within and be firm in your boundaries with others – irrespective who they are and the role they play in your life. This is the soul journey and you have said this for a very long time. So when will you listen to the truth you tell others?
You cannot make a person see more than they’re willing to see. Consciousness varies for each individual and it changes based solely on that individual’s level of awareness and their commitment to their soul journey. Souls learn from each other and sometimes that can be for a lifetime, sometimes a short time.
Again you reflect on the memory of “love and light”, an area from day one where you and XXX differed. And there is the teaching opportunity between you both. There is the learning and growth opportunity for you both. It is never for just one, it is always for both in ways unique for each soul.
You understand the principle of equilibrium. Your soul knows that for flow there must be balance. You know there is an opposite to everything and that one does not exist without the other, that everything has an equal opposite. Love and light has the shadow and dark and that is how equilibrium exists. The two together create the alchemy which takes away the stuckness and creates the flow. The alchemy of equilibrium which creates momentum.
In human terms it creates healing, propels growth and learning, expands consciousness and brings greater balance between the human and soul within individuals. This alchemy energy then attracts more opportunities for growth, expansion and soul alignment.
To live only in the focus of love and light is to create your own imbalance. As you’ve known for some time now – within the shadows lies the gold. The souls biggest voice and its wisdom.
You no longer sit in the shadows for long periods. You have learned the art of alchemy, the way to bring equilibrium to the lesson in order for growth to occur and your consciousness to expand. You have learned to trust your soul’s guidance and listen to its wisdom. That is why in this human heartbreak you have still heard the voice of your soul.
This is what you must continue to trust and listen to, for this is where you will begin to honour, love and respect yourself and will begin to heal the wound of your soul – the rejection and abandonment of your self. The pattern continues because you have allowed it to.
Child we do not say this to you for further hurt or for you to self criticise and place blame on yourself. You are not to blame, you are one part of the equation. You continue to neglect your self-love & respect, and XXX continues to run from challenges and conflict. While you both continue to ignore your woundings you will both continue to receive more of the same patterns. It is that simple, and yet we understand being human is anything but simple. We speak to you from the place of the soul.
You are mirrors for each other, but not responsible for making the other see. You know your energy needs to be around energy that continues to grow and evolve, for that is where the ease, grace, flow and joy occurs. You know it is not without challenges, hurdles and obstacles and they occur because there is a shift in consciousness required in order to grow and have harmony & equilibrium with the human and soul. You know this is the human journey.
If others close to you do not understand this conscious truth you cannot make them see it. They must be open, willing and committed to their journey in order to see that within themselves, and trust the guidance of their soul’s voice and wisdom. No amount of research and reading can show them if they are not ready to listen and focus only on the human life and its illusion.
Child we will continue to speak with you as you navigate this human challenge. We are pleased you have the ability to receive in amongst the human hurts. This shows you how much you have grown and your consciousness has expanded. You were not always this way and it will help you navigate this part of your journey with greater ease and integrity.
You are the a priority above all others, including your sons. What you do for you is done for them, remember that. Boundaries – be firm and consistent. Love yourself and value yourself – be honest but kind as you uncover your areas of growth. Embrace the opportunity to further grow and learn.
We love you. In grace, we are one.
