See things for what they are child, not for what you want them to be.
Having an open, giving and kind heart leaves you vulnerable to the energy and behaviours of others. If you lead with your heart wide open you will continue to be hurt. This is why we, and others, speak to you of boundaries.
To love without discernment, to lack awareness of your impact on others, to ignore what you’re feeling body tells you – is to cause distress for yourself. It is not only others and your impact on them you must have awareness of – it is also their impact on you. You must have awareness of that too. That is the equilibrium of life – the balance that exists in everything.
To lack this duty of care for others means you can hurt others. To lack this duty of care for self means you can be hurt. You must use discernment for both. You must hold personal integrity in your actions, interactions and behaviours AND hold yourself and others accountable to your values and needs.
To not do so creates great hurt and damage to all involved.
The “rose coloured glasses” as your kind terms them, are a lack of awareness of this we speak. You must see things for their truth (the reality) and not view them through the lens of your desires (the illusion & fantasy).
This is challenging to do when your heart is open and you allow it to be untethered and free. Self-care involves personal responsibility, and you must include self in that equation.
For it is an equation. It is the equal opposite that creates the equilibrium in all things.
Dark and light – one does not exist without the other. When one is greater than the other there is imbalance (misalignment). Alchemy is required to bring back the balance and restore the natural alignment. Avoidance, or too much focus on one area, does not bring alchemy. Awareness, responsibility and commitment to creating change does.
This requires the heart to be open but protected by balancing the heart and the feeling body, bringing them into alchemy or alignment.
Listening within, discerning the external and finding your peace (truth) from both is how harmony occurs. Rose coloured glasses, fantasies and false ideologies distort your ability to see the truth.
You must see things for what they are, not what you want them to be.
In grace we are one.
